Steps to acheiving your Goals, A Retreat for Women Who Dare and Aromatherapy Courses with a Difference
Clickholistic turns One next month and to thank you for being a loyal friend, I’ve decided to hold a special competition to celebrate – and you can win just by taking part. Thirteen people who send the most inspired ending to the following sentence: “Holistic Health is………” will win a gift. E-mail your entry to firstname.lastname@example.org before the 20 June 2009. The first three winners will win a signed copy of Lehla Eldridge’s “Lovely Book” (for more info go to: www.lovelybooks.co.za) in the post. The other ten winners will receive a link to download a copy of one Dr. Arien VD Merwe’s amazing books. So get typing!
Is your business succeeding as you would like? Are you following your heart and thriving, or are you paddling upstream, trying to make ends meet every month doing something you aren’t inspired to do?
NLP coach and trainer, Jevon D’Angeli, tells us in this month’s edition of Clickholistic, what it takes to get on the road to success.
The First & Final Step to Success
What’s your track record of sticking to your commitments and achieving your goals?
Well, here’s why goals fail and what you can do about it:When we learn to take personal response-ability for how we deal with each experience as it unfolds, we’ll be well on our way to success mastery.Jevon Dängeli – NLP / HNLP Trainer & Wellness Coach
Most people set goals which they think will help them to feel better about themselves, make them happier, fulfilled, excited or relaxed. The problem lies in that nothing outside ourselves can ever provide us with a sustainable means of experiencing the internal mental and emotional states that we seek.
Although the attainment of an external goal may briefly provide the internal state which is really what we’re after, the novelty soon wears off. We therefore keep chasing illusive outcomes and life becomes a rat race that we never win. Goals don’t work when what you’re attempting to accomplish by setting goals is not something that can be accomplished by goals, i.e. to avoid feeling undesired mental and emotional states.
Often the goals we set up for ourselves are distractions from what we fear most in our lives! So we keep moving away from what we don’t want (fear), and continue setting new goals to avoid experiencing the negative emotions which we drag along with us anyway. Probably the greatest undercurrent of all fears is our fear of the unknown, of uncertainty. So we go about setting goals, planning and organizing our lives in a hopeless attempt to avoid the inevitable. The solution: Become comfortable with uncertainty!
If you want to grow, develop and thrive in this day and age, then uncertainty is necessary – it’s a natural order in life. It’s out of uncertainty that new possibilities, opportunities and creativity energy arise. Most people set goals to escape uncertainty, and in so doing deprive themselves of the very experience that they seek to have.
“Man can learn nothing except by going from the known to the unknown.”
– Claude Bernard
When one learns to embrace uncertainty, life takes on a new meaning and we begin to identify the purpose and value of each experience. Be curious about the gifts awaiting you on the other side of uncertainty. Accept the uncertainty – accept the gift.
If you want to achieve your goals, make sure they’re authentic. An authentic goal is one which only you are responsible for. It doesn’t depend on other people or external circumstances. It’s the desire and intention to experience yourself in a particular way. People and situations may point you in a certain direction, but these are only indicator goals along the way to the achievement of an authentic goal.
Think of an indicator goal as a road sign, rather than the destination you are trying to get to. The indicator goal is only the sign or map. It is NOT the territory. One of my teachers used to remind us to beware of driving into the sign!
Be aware that you’re not setting your goal to avoid the very experience that life might have in store for you – such that you can move in the direction of your desires. For only when you can be with your life exactly as it is do you have the choice to change its direction. And changing direction is a mark of flexibility – one of the key ingredients in achieving your authentic goal. If, for example, happiness is your goal, then start by doing the things and changing your environment to how they will be when you are happy. And if that isn’t making you happier, then change the way you’re doing it until you’re being the person which you wish to become. Remain committed to achieving happiness and flexible as to how you go about it.
Remember the wisdom of the Chinese adage “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Quit focusing on the “thousand miles” part and shift your attention to the step you’re on. It’s only on this step, here and now, where you can experience your authentic goal. In any case an effective strategy to achieve more materialistic desires stems from the energy and focus which you’re cultivating on every step of your journey.
Each successive step along our way through life appears as a result of the thoughts, mental pictures and actions taken in our previous steps. Therefore we are constantly attracting the people and circumstances which are there for us to learn from in order for us to progress. If we refuse the learning and don’t take accountability, then similar situations continue to show up and nudge us along. We’re either successfully achieving the results that we want, or we’re successfully achieving the results that we don’t want!
Eventually we wake up, lock our focus on what we want (as opposed to what we don’t want), become flexible, begin behaving the part of that which we desire and therefore experience it!
It’s no wonder that Mahatma Gandhi said we must be the change that we want to see in the world. It’s the only chance the world has, and the only chance we have of achieving our authentic goals.
In my opinion our greatest opportunity for success in life is where we are each and every moment. It’s the step we’re on!
How are you going to bring about what you want to be, do and have right now?
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Soul Tools for Modern Woman
TIME OUT FOR WOMEN WHO DARE
Once a month Waterdown Health Farm and Spa organizes art, health and spiritual healing retreats for women who dare to reconnect with their bodies and souls. This retreat can also be arranged for any group: private or workplace; at your convenience and a venue of your choice.
Waterdown Health Farm and Spa is an integrative health and healing facility tucked away in a valley on a 22 hectare farm in Mpumalanga. About 3.5 km from the main road between Nelspruit and White River surrounded by abundant birdlife, rocks and a stream running through it, Waterdown is a hidden sanctuary that provides an opportunity to step back from work and reconnect with the heartbeat of the Earth. Integrating the healing power of nature, art, ritual, healthy eating, holistic massage, meditation and counseling, Waterdown seeks to find a deeper meaning of health that goes beyond the physical.
“Soul tools for Modern Woman” Retreat is facilitated by Mmatshilo Motsei and Dr Arien van der Merwe assisted by other therapists (art, movement, massage). Using deep relaxation exercises, painting, music, story telling, movement and meditation, the retreat is designed to create a quite, loving and caring space for women to rest, reflect and rejuvenate. By participating in a circle of love and delightful attention, women retrace their steps back to their magnificence.
Ms Motsei is a psychology graduate, Afrikan spiritualist, author and poet who spent the past two decades working as a counselor, trainer and consultant working mainly on personal empowerment for women across Afrika, North America and Europe. As part of her own healing process, Ms Motsei published a book titled Hearing Visions Seeing Voices in 2004.
Dr Arien van der Merwe is a medical doctor, author, health & wellness coach, Fellow of Royal Society of Public Health and Member of the International Stress Management Association. She works as a mind-body facilitator, spiritual teacher, health coach and skills development facilitator in the field of health and wellness. She is well known for her integrative approach in discovering blockages in the human energy system which leads to physical, emotional and spiritual disease.
Because of the intensity of the retreat, only 10 women can be accommodated. For more information and/or bookings send email to email@example.com
Positive Health is an Academy of Massage and Aromatherapy. Although we focus on massage classes for relaxation and release of the 3 T’s – tension, tightness and toxins – and later diplomas in massage, because POSITIVE TOUCH IS ESSENTIAL FOR HEALTH, we will also be providing classes on other complementary therapies, which will all lead to Positve Health.
Our latest offerings are two workshops on Nutrition, presented by well-known Registered Dietician, Annelie Smith, who has had 13 years experience in solving Nutrition ‘problems’ and, from her work over the years, has developed a special interest in our relationships with food, how we sabotage living a full and healthy life by the food choices we make, and how we can change those patterns. Her first workshop is on 23rd May and the second will be on 20th June at the Wellness Centre in Llandudno.
Other courses will become available over the months and it is suggested that the website www.positivehealth.co.za is regularly looked at for course updates.